Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Emotional Abuse

Emotional Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control another human being through the use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, manipulation etc. Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism and more such as repeated disapproval.

Emotional abuse is like brain washing it systematically takes away the victim's self-confidence. Emotional abuse is like brain washing in that it systematically wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self-worth. With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism and accusations brings down the victim's self-esteem until he/she is incapable of judging the situation . The victim has been so badly emotionally abused that he/she starts blaming themselves for the abuse. Their self- esteem that they start clinging on the abuser.

Emotional abuse victims can become so convinced that they are worthless that they believe that they have no one else to go to. They start living in these situations because they believe they no place to go. Their fear is being alone.

Types of emotional abuse:







Friday, July 2, 2010

Fight Against Abuse

Lots of women and children are being abused in some way or the other in every part of the world. I personally feel that the percentage of women and children being abused is on an increase. In India every day on news we all get to hear about cases relating to rape, molestation, eve teasing, dowry death, harassment etc. We all have to work to stop this evil menace.


Keeping all this in mind , I have created “fight against abuse” group on Facebook and @fight_abuse on Twitter because I wanted to create awareness about the trauma faced women and children who are being abused. I would like to work with women and children who are being abused and help them over come the trauma they have gone through or may still be going through .On completion of my course on Criminology I would like to make this my career option as this cause is very close to my heart and I personally feel that enough is not being done to help these victims of abuse.


Even when I am facing discouragement and resistance from some individuals I will not give up till I succeed. If anyone who is interested in being a part of this cause is free to join us to make the fight stronger. Please feel free to leave a story you have read or heard, an experience you have gone through in your life or any sort of information you would like to share regarding the subject.


I have created an e-mail id for this cause in the group in Facebook feel free to drop me a line. If you don’t have a account on Facebook feel free to contact me on twitter @sahiba_k I will send you the email id for that cause.

Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is an abuse which involves contact intended to cause feelings of intimidation, injury, or other physical suffering or bodily harm.

Forms of Physical abuse:

>Striking
>Punching
>Pushing, pulling
>Slapping
>Whipping
>Striking with an object
>Excessive pinching on the body
>Kicking
>Making someone fall
>Kneeing
>Strangling
>Drowning
>Sleep deprivation
>Exposure to cold, freezing
>Exposure to heat or radiation, burning
>Exposure to electric shock
>Placing in stress positions (tied or otherwise forced)
>Cutting or otherwise exposing somebody to something sharp
>Exposure to a dangerous animal
>Throwing or shooting a projectile
>Exposure to a toxic substance
>Infecting with a disease
>Withholding food or medication
>Spanking is subject to controversy as to whether it qualifies as physical abuse.
>Blinding a person or causing impairment of sight.
>Biting

Domestic Violence

Physical or phycological abuse, threats, intimidation or harassment inflicted by a family member, significant other in a dating relationship, household, member (i.e roommates, floor mates, etc) or care taker relationship. Again a person need not be married or living together can be of the same sex/gender as the victim.

Battering:-

Battering is behaviour that is to establish power and control over the other person with whom an intimate relationship is or has been through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use violence. Battering happens when one person believes that they have entitled to control another.


Intimate partner violence is connected to the societal oppression of violence of women,children , people of color, people with disabilities, people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans, elders, and other marginalized groups.


Domestic violence may not only include the intimate partner relationships or spousal, live- in relationships and dating relationships, also familial, elder and child abuse may be present in a violent home. Abuse generally falls into one or more following categories: Physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional and psychological abuse, and generally increases over the period of time.

Victims of abuse may experience:

> Punched wall
> control of finances
> lying, using
> children to manipulate a parent's emotions
> intimidation
> isolation from family and friends
> fear
> shame
> criticism
> cuts
> crying and afraid children
> broken bones
> confusion
> forced sexual contact
> manipulation
> sexist comments
> yelling
> rages
> craziness
> harassment
> neglect
> shoving
> screaming
> jealously
> loss of self esteem
> coercion
> slammed doors
> abandonment
>silent treatment
>rape
> destruction of personal property
> unwanted touching
> name calling
> strangling
> ripping
> slapping
> bitting
> kicking
> bruises
> stalking
> scrapes
> depression
> sabotaging attendance at job or school
> brainwashing
> violence of pets
> pinching
> deprivation of physical and economic resources
> Public humiliation
> broken promises
> prevention of seeking medical and dental care
> ridicule
> restraining
> self- medication
> forced tickling
> threats to harm the family and friends
> threats to take away the children
> threats of being kicked out
> threats of being killed

Occupational Violence

Occupational violence is the attempted or actual exercise by a person of any force so as to cause injury to a worker including any threatening statement or behaviour which gives a worker reasonable cause to believe he or she is at risk.

Following factors increase a worker's risk for workplace violence:

1) Contact with public
2) Delivery of passengers, goods or services.
3) Having a mobile workplace such as taxicab or police cruiser
4) Working with an unstable person in health care, social services or criminal justice settings.
5) Working alone or in small numbers
6) Working late at night or during early hours.
7) Working in high - crime violence
8) Guarding expensive goods
9) Working where alcohol is served.

Violent incidents in the workplace ordinarily follow some sort of "trigger" that pushes an already vulnerable person to take drastic action. Be wary of employees who start to behave in ways listed below:

1) They say they've been treated unfairly.
2) They say they're being forced to wait for something( a promotion, raise etc)
3) They show signs of mental instability.
4) They begin to isolate themselves, are thought as a loner
5) They have recently been disciplined for something.

Most employees with grievance don't become violent.

The following characteristics are the most common in those who commit workplace violence:

> History of violent behaviour . This increases any involvement with the criminal justice system.
> Upset with only having low-level tasks to do
> No job security
> Problems growing up, including bad grades in school, abusive parents etc.
> Substance abuse, including taking heavy medication ( drugs ,alcohol)

Violence has often occurred at meetings between managers and employees, especially if the employee is unhappy with the meeting. If you schedule a meeting with and employee and you feel that the employee may become violent, you may want to take these steps:

> Don't let the employee know that a meeting is scheduled - take them by surprise so that they don't have time to prepare.
> Have someone else present.
> When employees are being evaluated, make sure that good things are being said about them as well.
> Never attack an employee- this includes insults and yelling at them.
> Always remain calm when you talk
> Make sure that you have good distance between yourself and the employee
> Make sure that security can easily be reached
> Stay close to the door incase you choose to quickly leave.

Possible effects on children when they witness domestic violence

The children who witness domestic violence or are living in an environment where domestic violence occurs they experience a trauma as abused children.

The effects children undergo when they are witnessing domestic violence at their homes they become fearful, inhibited, aggressive, anti-social, with-drawn , anxious , depressed angry, confused and may also suffer from disturbed sleep, eating problems and they may face difficulties at school and problems in making friends. Children at times may feel caught up in between their parents and may find it difficult to talk to them.

Youngsters may exhibit taking risk such as taking drugs and alcohol , running away from home and getting involved in criminal behaviour. Young men will try to protect their mothers or they become abusive with their mothers as well. Young children may get injured if they try to intervence in the violence in their homes.

Please stop domestic violence in your homes so that no one in the family gets abused. Eg: Women and Children.